I think everyone is familiar with the idea of a fair weather friend, someone who is only around when things are going well, but as soon as times are tough, they’re nowhere to be seen. Lately I’ve realized that I have a few people in my life who are the exact opposite. When things are going well in their life, I never hear from them, but when there’s drama, or something is broken, they turn to me.

I’ve been told I’m a good listener, and knowing that someone feels they can trust me to confide their dark unpleasant bits is a humbling honor, but what does it mean when they don’t think of you when things are going well? Why am I not thought of when it’s time to plan a gathering or do something fun? I’m not sure, but the more that I think of it, it kind of sucks. Am I being used?