There’s only so much time and energy for a person to give. How we choose to use that time is entirely up to us and I’m a firm believer that we’re ultimately responsible for what happens to us in life. Today there was a disgusting topic trending on twitter about domestic violence that caused me to stop and think. I’ve never been the victim of physical abuse and I don’t want to assume that I even remotely know what it’s like to be in a situation like that, but I can see one area of similarity to my own. Those victims often know that they’re in a bad situation, but are unable to bring themselves to leave.
I know more than a few people who complain about their significant others. I’ve often asked them why, if things are so bad that they stay. They justify it with reasons that, while they may seem questionable to me, are very valid ones to them. This is just my opinion, but I think that the real reason is that they feel it’s comfortable, and that the unknown is scary, and that if this isn’t so bad, it’s worth holding on to.
In my own way I’ve been guilty of this for far too long. In my search for meaningful relationships I’ve settled for any that would come my way. The negative consequences that came with those relationships are completely my fault. It may not be my fault that they treated me like garbage, but it is my fault that I tolerated it. Today I’ve finally decided that enough is enough. Holding on to tangential, hurtful relationships while holding out hope that things will turn into something better isn’t working, in fact, not only is it not working, but it’s hurting me and I’m not OK with it. Today I’m letting go, and if you’re someone who stops hearing from me, you won’t have to wonder why. It’s not me, it’s you.